Requiem Policies

A Requiem, a Mass said for the departed, is the traditional catholic funeral service, with or without the remains present. It is an important ritual of celebrating the life of and bidding farewell to the deceased, as well as allowing the bereaved to grieve and take hope in God. 

  1. "The death of a member of the Church should be reported as soon as possible to, and arrangements for the funeral should be made in consultation with, the Minister of the Congregation" (Book of Common Prayer). If one needs help finding funeral services, Father Bates recommends consultation with the The Memorial Society of Northeast New Jersey. Some guidance for finding affordable direct cremation may be found in this article from the Huffington Post

  2. Requiems (with the body, cremated remains, or no remains) are normally done in the Church Building. Internments following the Requiem, if necessary, can be done at the graveside or in the Church's Columbarium (see below).

  3. Musical selections must be approved by the Director of Music and the Rector. Only sacred music is approved according to these parameters: sacred organ music or other acoustical sacred music may be used. Hymns and songs must come from The Hymnal 1982 . No praise music or choruses may be used.

  4. "The coffin is to be closed before the service, and it remains closed thereafter" (Book of Common Prayer).

  5. Clergy will officiate requiems for Communicants (see the definition of a Communicant here) and their immediate family members at no cost, though some fees apply (for example, the fee for the organist and soloist).

  6. The following fees for funerals will apply to non-Communicants:

    1. Church Use = $500 (waived for communicants)

    2. Clergy Fee for Funeral and Committal = $300 (waived for communicants)

    3. Organist = $250 (required for all)

    4. Soloist = $125 (required for all)

    5. See below for costs related to the columbarium.


Grace Church in Newark's Columbarium (a sacred space with niches for urns containing cremated remains) are available for purchase. The Columbarium is fittingly located directly beneath the Church's High Altar and is accessible by the All Saints Chapel to family and friends of the deceased with the assistance of a staff person. Single niches are available for $1,200 (including the name plate) and double niches for $1,700 (including the double name plate). Urns for a single niche can be no larger than 8" wide x 11" high x 10" deep. Urns for a double niche can be no larger than 5" wide x 11" high x 10" deep. An ideal-sized urn, which has been used often at Grace Church, can be found and purchased online.