Burial of the Dead, Requiems and Memorials
The Burial of the Dead is an important ritual of celebrating the life of and bidding farewell to the deceased, and allowing the bereaved to grieve and take hope in God. At Grace Church we usually hold a Requiem, a Mass said for the departed, as the traditional form of a catholic burial service.
- "The death of a member of the Church should be reported as soon as possible to, and arrangements for the funeral should be made in consultation with, the Minister of the Congregation" (Book of Common Prayer). If one needs help finding funeral services, Father Bates recommends consultation with the The Memorial Society of Northeast New Jersey. Some guidance for finding affordable direct cremation may be found in this article from the Huffington Post.
- Requiems (with the body or with cremated remains) are normally done in the Church Building and Burials are done at the graveside or in the Church's Columbarium.
- The same general liturgical and music policies for weddings apply to requiems.
- "The coffin is to be closed before the service, and it remains closed thereafter" (Book of Common Prayer).
- Clergy will officiate requiems for Communicants (see the definition of a Communicant here) and their immediate family members at no cost, though some minimal fees will apply (including organist and soloist, perhaps custodial fees for a reception, and sometimes flowers, but not building use or clergy fees).
- The following fees for funerals will apply to non-Communicants and their families:
- Organist = $250 (required for all)
- Soloist = $125 (required for all)
- Altar Flowers = $150 (if desired for the altar, and if Sunday's flowers cannot be procured)
- Church Use = $500 (waived for communicants)
- Clergy Fee for Funeral and Committal = $300 (waived for communicants)
- Reception Fee = $300 for 3 hours usage of the Parish Hall (waived for communicants)
- Custodial = $100 (waived for communicants)
- See below for costs related to the columbarium.
- Fr. Bates may be available to perform funerals or graveside committals for at other locations for non-members at a predetermined fee. Call or email him for more information.
Grace Church in Newark's Columbarium (a sacred space with niches for urns containing cremated remains) are available for purchase. The Columbarium is fittingly located directly beneath the Church's High Altar and is accessible by the All Saints Chapel to family and friends of the deceased with the assistance of a staff person. Single niches are available for $1,200 (including the name plate) and double niches for $1,700 (including the double name plate). Fees go toward the maintenance of the Columbarium and the Altar. Urns for a single niche can be no larger than 8" wide x 11" high x 10" deep. Urns for a double niche can be no larger than 5" wide x 11" high x 10" deep. An ideal-sized urn, which has been used often at Grace Church, can be found and purchased online.